“He Said His Name Was Peter”: Robert Downey Jr. Reveals Gwyneth Paltrow Once Forgot Who Tom Holland Was

“He Said His Name Was Peter”: Robert Downey Jr. Reveals Gwyneth Paltrow Once Forgot Who Tom Holland Was

During a hilarious speech honoring Gwyneth Paltrow, Avengers: Doomsday star Robert Downey Jr. revealed the Iron Man actress once forgot who Spider-Man’s Tom Holland was… after being in a movie with him.

By DanielKlissmman - Dec 04, 2025 09:12 AM EST
Filed Under: Iron Man
Source: The Hollywood Reporter

You know what my favorite actor stories are? The ones that reveal glimpses of what they're like in real life. Behind all the PR talk and smiles to sell a project (both of which are completely understandable), it's fun to see them be themselves, or at least to hear about it. Now, that kind of story has come our way about Pepper Potts herself, Gwyneth Paltrow. The actress has had an illustrious career, but is perhaps best known for portraying Potts in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. 

Being part of the biggest franchise in Hollywood would be a memorable experience for most people... but not to Paltrow. Over the years, the actress has built a reputation for not really being invested in the superhero movie genre. And you know what? We love her for it. Now, thanks to Iron Man/Doctor Doom, Robert Downey Jr., we have an incredibly funny instance of Paltrow's nonchalant attitude toward comic book fare. 

The actress was honored on December 3 with the Sherry Lansing Leadership Award (which recognizes, "trailblazers and philanthropists in entertainment and media") at The Hollywood Reporter's Women in Entertainment 2025 breakfast gala. Presenting the award was Paltrow's Iron Man co-star, Robert Downey Jr. The actor delivered a moving speech, which started out by referencing his co-star's little interest in the MCU, revealing a hilarious time when she couldn't remember Spider-Man actor Tom Holland, and was convinced his name was "Peter": 

"Maybe... she's a bit of a dichotomy. Impossibly intelligent, but forever confused by the basic tenets of the Marvel Cinematic Universe and its inhabitants. "'Who's that? He said his name was Peter.' [Downey Jr. replied] 'No, his character's name is Peter. That's Tom Holland. You did four movies with him.'" 

Paltrow returned to the MCU after a years-long absence in 2017's Spider-Man: Homecoming. She had a cameo in the film's third act, where Pepper handled a press conference meant to announce Peter Parker as the newest member of the Avengers. She then appeared alongside Holland in Avengers: Endgame. Following the climactic battle against Thanos' forces, Pepper pulled Peter away from a near-death Tony Stark. So, "four movies" was a superlative on Downey Jr.'s part, but they were definitely together in two. 

Downey Jr. went on to talk about the actress' many endeavors while working in Hollywood: "I pulled her out of her first unannounced retirement from cinema. In 2007, she was birthing and building Goop between takes on the set of Iron Man, having spent the previous decade and a half just gobbling up Oscars and Globes. Always choosing directors at these critical points in their careers—both Andersons—Paul Thomas and Wes, Minghella, Soderbergh, Fincher, while also becoming a devoted mother and wife." 

After Downey Jr. finished his speech, Paltrow went on stage to receive her award. The Marty Supreme star expressed her appreciation for her longtime co-star: "Robert, I love you so much. You are the older brother that I never had and... wasn't sure I wanted, but I guess... I'm so grateful to you for being the best partner on screen—for being always the most honest and brilliant reflection back, not just about me but about us, our families, the world."

Funnily enough, Paltrow's major other display of indifference toward the MCU was regarding Spider-Man. In 2019, the actress appeared on the first episode of Netflix's The Chef Show, which starred Iron Man helmer Jon Favreau.

While they were cooking, the director reminded Paltrow they'd both been in Spider-Man: Homecoming, to which she replied: "We weren't in Spider-Man." The director insisted they had, but Paltrow replied, "No, I was in Avengers." Favreau then described her scene in Homecoming, to which she finally realized: "Oh, yes! [...] That was Spider-Man?! Oh, my God!"

The moment went viral at the time, so much so that it was brought up by Jimmy Kimmel during Paltrow's appearance on Jimmy Kimmel Live! in 2019. Regarding the matter, she explained: "I just got confused. There's so many of these wonderful Marvel interconnecting movies. And I thought that it was an Avengers movie, but it was not."

Paltrow was then asked if Tom Holland had been offended by her forgetting her role in his film, to which she revealed: "I never actually saw the movie." She then jokingly stated: "I mean, wait! Cut that out! Take that back!"

Most recently, Paltrow rewatched a few of her most popular films for Vanity Fair. In the Iron Man section. the actress was asked if she had ever imagined when first signing on as Pepper Potts that she would go on to appear in seven MCU movies. Paltrow had no idea that was the case, responding: "That can't be right. I cannot have been in seven. Is that true?" She was then asked if she could appear in Brave New World, to which she asked: "What is that?"

Gwyneth Paltrow can be seen in Josh Safdie's Marty Supreme, coming out on December 25, 2025. Robert Downey Jr. will return to the MCU—this time as Dr. Doom—in Avengers: Doomsday, scheduled for release on December 18, 2026. He will then reprise the role in Avengers: Secret Wars, hitting theaters December 17, 2027. 

What did you think about Downey Jr.'s speech about Gwyneth Paltrow? What's your favorite performance from her? Leave your thoughts in the comments!

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Daniel Klissmman is an entertainment journalist who's written for Movie Pilot, CBR.com, Cinemark and AMC Theatres. He loves superheroes with a passion and really wishes he'll one day get to hang out with Moon Knight.
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JackDeth
JackDeth - 12/4/2025, 9:02 AM
"The actress has had an illustrious career, but is perhaps best known for portraying Potts in the Marvel Cinematic Universe."

Uhhhhhh... what?? Do you mean Oscar winner Gwenyth Paltrow? That Gwenyth Paltrow?
Goldboink
Goldboink - 12/4/2025, 11:01 AM
@JackDeth -
Most people missed Shakespear in Love
Feralwookiee
Feralwookiee - 12/4/2025, 9:04 AM
Like most women, all she cares about is
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xkot
xkot - 12/4/2025, 9:39 AM
@Feralwookiee - And all men care about is art.
Feralwookiee
Feralwookiee - 12/4/2025, 10:14 AM
@xkot - I wouldn't ever say "all".
I usually say most or the vast majority. There's always a few exceptions
TheRevelation
TheRevelation - 12/4/2025, 11:46 AM
@xkot - Yes...art.

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jst5
jst5 - 12/4/2025, 12:54 PM
@Feralwookiee - Paltrow never came off as the brightest bulb....
Feralwookiee
Feralwookiee - 12/4/2025, 2:31 PM
@jst5 - You got that right.
Just another Hollywood dingbat.
Imprtracr1
Imprtracr1 - 12/4/2025, 9:06 AM
I'm not sure why folks see her as intelligent exactly...

She comes off as an idiot.
TheRevelation
TheRevelation - 12/4/2025, 11:47 AM
@Imprtracr1 - I've known many a smart airhead in my day, so it tracks really. To me anyway.
Imprtracr1
Imprtracr1 - 12/4/2025, 1:42 PM
@TheRevelation - "Education" is not the same as having intelligence.

I agree.
TheDarkLastSonKnight
TheDarkLastSonKnight - 12/4/2025, 9:07 AM
it's funny, I grew up on early-mid 90s comics, So both RDJ and Paltrow don't exactly embody Tony Stark OR Pepper Potts for my taste.
But I enjoyed all the Phase 1 and 2 Marvel stuff.

skyshark03191
skyshark03191 - 12/11/2025, 5:08 PM
@TheDarkLastSonKnight - RDJ has never been Tony Starknto me, honestly. He’s just playing himself. He was the most like the character in the first movie, but the schtick wore out fast for me. Chris Evans’ Cap was always my anchor to the MCU until Spider-Man came in.
TheDarkLastSonKnight
TheDarkLastSonKnight - 12/15/2025, 11:31 AM
@skyshark03191 - Evans Agreed. Holland's Spiderman doesn't move the needle for me, except for his appearance in Civil War.

It'll be interesting to see where RDJ's Von Doom goes.
KetracelWhite74
KetracelWhite74 - 12/4/2025, 9:18 AM
This woman's lowest point was breaking down and eating some bread during the pandemic.
TheFinestSmack
TheFinestSmack - 12/4/2025, 9:18 AM
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jparr2
jparr2 - 12/4/2025, 9:22 AM
Stupid woman, out of touch with the real world.. bout as smart as dirt.
IAmAHoot
IAmAHoot - 12/4/2025, 9:45 AM
@jparr2 - Ooh you're in a tizzy. Now explain.
Feralwookiee
Feralwookiee - 12/4/2025, 10:16 AM
@jparr2 - You've just described about 90% of them. 😆
MisterBones
MisterBones - 12/4/2025, 9:27 AM
She is NOT OKAY
SATW42
SATW42 - 12/4/2025, 9:37 AM
me not reading who the author of this article is:

" You know what my favorite actor stories are?"

Oh Daniel Klissmman wrote this shit
xkot
xkot - 12/4/2025, 9:41 AM
In fairness to Gwyneth, I can't remember her appearances in about half her MCU movies.
IAmAHoot
IAmAHoot - 12/4/2025, 9:44 AM
This clip from Downey about Paltrow always cracked me up. (Go to 1:22)

TheRevelation
TheRevelation - 12/4/2025, 11:59 AM
@IAmAHoot - Interesting that the Oppenheimer explosions weren't cgi. I just forgot that's not his thing. Thanks for sharing!
Wahhvacado
Wahhvacado - 12/4/2025, 9:44 AM
Too much Goop
SATW42
SATW42 - 12/4/2025, 9:44 AM
Honestly, I know there's a bunch of mouth breathing morons here going "dumb woman" but she hasn't worked with Tom.

The way her cameo was shot in homecoming I don't even think they were on set together, and in Endgame she just pulled him away from Tony, no dialogue.

The shot at his funeral, when they took the cast photo, also no dialogue and like 35 people were there.

It's just a funny little anecdote, and it's really not that hard to believe she wouldn't know who he is. Sit down any other actor apart from probably Iman Vellani and ask them to name every actor in the MCU and I'm pretty sure they can't do it.
TheVisionary25
TheVisionary25 - 12/4/2025, 10:05 AM
@SATW42 - true

Plus in Homecoming , she comes in after Peter has already left.
BillyBatson1000
BillyBatson1000 - 12/4/2025, 10:00 AM
Looking at how many characters they've front-loaded into 'Avengers: Doomsday' and 'Spider-Man: Brand New Day', who'll probably get a cameo / single line of dialogue and probably won't be in the same space while they're shooting ...

I know I'd struggle with that.
bkmeijer1
bkmeijer1 - 12/4/2025, 10:01 AM
In her defense, I don't know the four movies they did together either. I can think of Homecoming, Infinity War and Endgame, and they had maybe two scenes together.
TheVisionary25
TheVisionary25 - 12/4/2025, 10:04 AM
Lol , that’s funny…

RDJ should have went along with it and said his name actually was Peter and he really was Spider Man.
JayLemleAgain3X
JayLemleAgain3X - 12/4/2025, 11:31 AM
I have been watching RDJ's movies since the 80's. The 90's RDJ seemed liked he could be a lost cause. What a heck of a turnaround though! Such a class-act, and one who loves what he does. He has a more sophisticated take vs Samuel L Jackson's take ("Why did I do 'Snakes on a Plane?' $20M dollars, muthaphucka!"... I also respect Samuel's take because you get the best product when the actors like their jobs LOL) on these movies. He's not a pretentious d!ckhead like Coppola, Scorcese, and Edward Norton (just to name a few).

This also shows more of Marvel's shooting process. She's been in four movies with Tom, but how much screentime together have they clocked? Not much. I remember just recently a Doomsday article was posted here sharing some of the actors only shared scenes with a handful of their co-stars. I LOVE on-location shoots, but that's gotta be a bit hard to not act with someone physically there, and then see an edit where an entire team is together on screen with the use of CG. It must be an interesting and fun process, but somewhat left out to dry by not meeting your co-stars until a screening, event, or an unnannounced visit to the set for a day.
InfinitePunches
InfinitePunches - 12/4/2025, 1:38 PM
Which one was Gweneth Paltro again? Was she the one in the bee costume?

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